July 13, 2006

Keep at bay

Our third official quarrel was a real quarrel. No, we didn't hurl verbal abuse or claw each other. We didn't even so much as raise our voice. We just did it the non-dramatic, quiet, peace-loving kind of way.

I think what one needs is a closure of an issue that has been quarrelled over, resolved, or not. For some, that closure comes in the form of a genuine 'I'm sorry', or maybe 'Let's stop quarreling over this', or maybe 'kiss and make up?' or...

A closure that indicates that the matter has been acknowledged and it's bad that it has sparked off a quarrel, a period of unpleasantness, tension and just a wasteful drain of delicate emotions. But, the matter is over and if it has not been resolved, at least, it's been recorded in the biography and archived subsequently. Ya, so that one or both of both parties may despicably bring it out again in the next quarrel in time to come. And more accusing fingers can be pointed.

That's what usually happen, to most couples. Isn't it? But, I rise above my own archive too high to retrieve it. I treat every quarrel as a brand-new opportunity to rant and rave and whine and complain. I always prefer using fresh ingredients.

Just me and my superfluous logic.

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 13:15